5 easy tips to be more confident as an introvert!
A couple of years ago, I’d never have even considered writing a blog, let alone actually get views, and now look! My shyness always used to get the best of me. It prevented me from making so many friends and reaching so many goals. Now, I have a different mindset and focus on ways of becoming more comfortable with myself. I’m not scared of socialising and I love making new friends! These tips may sounds difficult but they’re actually such easy things to implement. It’s not easy to be confident as an introvert. For me, these tips are making the world of difference, so, if you feel as though you need a little confidence then please read ahead and enjoy my tips!
1. Smile more!
I used to hate my smile as I thought it was too crooked or my eyes squinted too much but smiling helps so much with making friends. A simple smile is what led to me making new friends when I moved to a new school as they returned it and it gave me to confidence to actually start a conversation! I don’t think I could make it through sixth form without my friends so it’s something I’m glad I mustered up the courage to do! A smile makes you look so much more friendlier and approachable! I was at a gym class the other night and I smiled at everyone through the pain and they returned it, maybe that’s because they sympathised with me but at least I wasn’t hiding away in the corner avoiding eye contact with everyone. Some people are like that, and maybe it seems a preferable option but a small smile can help you come out of your shell a lot more.
2. Look at yourself, a lot. (As an introvert, it does boost confidence)
Then, don’t look on social media straight after. What do you like about yourself? Ignore what you dislike; focus on your proudest feature. Knowing what you like is what you need to master before focusing on what you want to change. There’s no need to change but if you’re truly unhappy with something then you may want to change it. That’s okay too. My sister, unfortunately, got bullied about her weight which was horrendous. She didn’t overeat, it was due to a disorder and to an extent, a lack of exercise. One night, I sat with her and she told me what she liked about herself, the only thing she disliked, was her weight. She felt about it so passionately that she has paid out for a personal trainer and 6 months on, she’s never been happier with herself and she’s much stronger in her mindset. Look in a mirror and find just one thing you like about yourself. Keep doing it everyday- the list will grow.
3. Stop caring what others think but also care what you think!
You hear it so many times and this is probably the hardest but it’s also the most important to being happy and confident. You like that top that others have laughed at? Wear it! You feel good in it and that’s all that matters! Most of the time, it won’t say to your face and that makes it all the easier to ignore! If they can’t say it to your face then see it as not being important enough to bring to your attention, so it’s simply not something important at all! Your opinion should take priority and I’m certain in leads to both a huge confidence boost and a huge mood lift!
4. Force yourself to talk to people
This again, is definitely not easy but it is effective. Making yourself talk to others helps you find common interests and leads to more in-depth and exciting conversations. Even if the conversation doesn’t work out with one person, at least you’re making an attempt and it’ll still help. Even if it doesn’t work with the person you want it to, don’t be upset. Just widen your view and engage with more people, you’ll soon find that people you’ll enjoy talking to are a lot closer than you think. Even if you’re shy around some people, you’ll have a group of people that you’ll feel comfortable around and it’ll feel good to be yourself with them. I’m definitely more confident around my friends and they know my true personality whilst everyone else sees me as an introvert!
5. Do more of what you’re good at!
That sport where you always lead the team to victory or that type of artwork that always gets you compliments, it feels good right? Doing this more and knowing that you’re good at it will really lift your mood and help your confidence and you know you have something you excel at. For me, this was mostly school work, I always did pretty well and although some people made snide remarks about it, I also had a handful of people telling me I was smart. I’d say that I’m not the brightest but I do pretty well in school, so I focused more on school and in my GCSEs, I got pretty good grades and it felt good because of how hard I worked for them. Now, in A-levels, it’s a bit more competitive as I’m with more people of my ability but I’m trying my hardest so whatever grades I get in August, I’ll know that I couldn’t have done any more to achieve them. I may be a little disappointed if they’re not what I need, I’ll still be proud. Check out my feelings about my school work in my last life update that you can read here.
What makes you feel most confident? Are you an introvert? Will these tips help you be more confident as an introvert? Let me know in the comments below!